|Whom to send Wedding Invitations|
Once you have chosen the date, the time, and place of your wedding, it is time to begin preparing a wedding invitations guest list. If your wedding is to be large enough for you to invite everyone you want to, lucky you. If not, you will have to do a little tactful sorting out. First on your wedding invitations list will probably be relatives, followed by close family friends, the people who have watched you grow up and participated in your life at other meaningful stages. You will also want to include your dear friends- and your mother will want to include her dear friends, and the groom’s mother will have a similar wedding invitations list. The clergyperson and his spouse are invited to the wedding and reception, as are the husband and wives of married attendants. It’s especially nice, if you can afford to do so, to give your attendants the option of bringing the date. When two people live together, they also must be invited together even though you may only know one partner. The parents of the flower girl and ring bearer are invited to the wedding and reception. Parents of unmarried attendants are invited to the wedding and reception, if they live nearby. Technically, the bride and groom share the wedding invitations list equally- that is, each invites half the guests. Some names will be added to the wedding invitations list jointly by you and your fiancé.
Too be sure you haven’t forgotten someone dear to you, make a last-minute check trough your address book and your old Christmas card lists as well as those of your parents; go through alumni directories and club membership lists, to see if there is anyone you have missed to add to your wedding invitations list.
Often there are some fuzzy areas on wedding invitation guest lists- people you aren’t sure whether or not to invite. Usually these are the people with whom you or your fiancé work, neighbours who are friends only by virtue of proximity, and out- of- town friends. If your wedding invitations list is small, you probably won’t ask any of these people. Sometimes, when the guest list is limited, it is better not to ask anyone from a group- the people you work with, for example- than to ask only some of the people. If you have a co-worker to whom you feel especially close though, by all means include him or her. On the one hand, out-of –towners will probably be flattered to be asked to your wedding if they’re close friends, even they can’t attend. On the other hand, since wedding invitation obligates people to send a gift, you may want to send announcements instead to out-of-town friends if you know they cannot possibly attend your wedding.