|The Guest List|
It happens to almost every bride and groom: the guest list carefully counted and coordinated within the budget, slowly but surely inflates. Don’t think it can’t happen to you. As cousin you’ve never heard of come out of the woodwork and your mothers’ work friends inquire about the date, guest list can grown at an alarming rate.
Make sure you never lose sight of your first shared vision of your wedding, but don’t forget about these guests:
· The spouse, fiancé, or live-in partner of each invited guest-even if you never met.
· The person who performs the ceremony, and his or her spouse.
· The parents of ring bearers and flower girl.
It is nice to include:
· The parents of the bridesmaids. It’s nice gesture when feasible, especially when the bride knows them well.
Not necessary, but Meaningful, to include:
· Counsellors, advisers, or mentors to the bride or groom who are not close friends but who have been an important part of their lives.
Should fewer guests be invited to an encore wedding?
It’s up to you. Some encore couples prefer to limit the guests list at the ceremony and reception to close family and friends and to enjoy a later, larger get-together. Other couples plan a large and elaborate celebration they’ve always dreaming of. As a general guideline, invite those you couldn’t imagine getting married without.
What if a good number of guests send their regrets?
Be prepared. Wedding industry experts predict that 15 to 20 percent of invited guests send regrets. That means if you are planning to have 150 guests, invite 170 to 180 people. Prior commitments, illness, and unseen circumstances will likely prevent more people from attending than you expect. Talk to your reception site manager to ensure that a few additional guests can be accommodated if more than 150 attend. This approach is far better than creating A and B lists of guests, the B list guests being sent invitations only after those on the A list send regrets. The potential for people discovering this and feeling hurt is too great.